An excellent video from Gemma Bailey NLP4Kids. (In the link below)
This video will tell you about 3 NLP4Kids strategies that you can use to overcome fears and worries. The first one is called visual rehearsal. Visual rehearsal is when you imagine situations in your mind that may have happened in the past, could happen in the future or are never going to happen in 1 million years anyway! Visual rehearsal is when you use your imagination to play movies in your own mind. This is a powerful skill because when doing it, your brain makes contact with the parts of your body you would use if the thing you are imagining were to happen in real life. Your brain also makes contact with the emotions and hormones that would be released in your body if that thing were to happen in real life. So you are practising and priming yourself to know exactly how to react and respond if something remotely similar happens in real life, as it had in your imagination. This is really helpful if you’re imagining good things happening because then if something a little similar to that happens in real life your body instantly knows how to react and respond because you’ve practised it so much.
However, this is a disaster for people who think of worst-case scenarios because it works in exactly the same way. Your brain and your body will very quickly respond in the negative ways you have imagined if something similar to the worst-case scenario starts to happen in real life. And of course, the more you practice something the more effectively and the faster you are able to do it. So we need to avoid thinking of worst-case scenarios or distorting them to be so unrealistic they no longer have the same emotional impact. Imagine things going well and visually rehearse those instead. For example, if there were a stressful situation coming up you could imagine going through it but remaining calm. Secondly, because real life doesn’t always follow the plans that we want it to, you need to visually rehearse contingency plans. This means imagining in advance how you would cope if a worst-case scenario started to happen and imagining that you are able to turn a bad situation into a good one. This has the additional benefit of teaching your brain to go into problem-solving mode when there’s a curve ball that might have thrown you off track from the outcomes you were aiming for.
This video is child & young person suitable. Please pass it onto them 🙂