Is there a time to go nuclear with your young person?
The short answer is yes! I believe that when various interventions have been tried and warnings made it may be time to consider going nuclear. In my 8 years of practice, I have suggested this only three times and it has been carefully implemented once to great and positive effect. In the other two cases the young person responded to the previous warnings and made changes, life for the whole family improved.
What does going nuclear mean? The complete withdrawal of all that you do or give your young person. I don’t mean withdrawal of love or kindness. I mean no more lifts to see friends, to football practice, no more favourite sweets or food bought specially no more pocket money and so on.
Perhaps the trips to football you leave in with an understanding that they need to be earnt and can also be withdrawn. A careful discussion would need to be held and anything that would potentially be detrimental to their wellbeing considered in that light. But the line needs to be firmly drawn when all else has failed. This is a huge step and should not be reached quickly. A whole lot of work needs to be put in place prior and during this time.
If you think you may need to go nuclear give me a call to discuss.
07964 976711
